Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Centennial Celebration in Bontoc

Bontoc was the host of the 100 Years of Celebration with the CICM in the Apostolic Vicariate of Bontoc-Lagawe from December 12-15, centering on the theme "Remembering, Rerooting, Revitalizing". CICM is a Latin acronym which, in English, stands for Congregation of the Immaculate Heart of Mary. For better or worse, the CICM have greatly contributed to what we are now as a people. Our faith and our education came mostly from their work and contributions to us for a hundred years.

A little bit of history: the CICMs were the first missionaries to come to Bontoc in 1907. They were the first Roman Catholic order to successfully establish mission stations in the whole of the Cordillera region, particularly within the tribal groups collectively known as the Igorots. CICM was established in Belgium and was mainly composed of priests and brothers who hail from Belgium and Ireland, and only opened their order to other nationalities in the mid 20th century. Why am I saying this? It is to point out that these first missionaries who came to Bontoc were Belgians and were later called “Belgian Fathers”. They were young men priests and brothers who stayed among our people, and subsequently were helped by their female counterpart order, the Immaculate Heart of Mary (ICM). Old men and women have fond memories of these priests and sisters, some of whom died and were buried here. The CICM and ICM have since left the region and handed over the responsibility to the native or diocesan priests and sisters.

Here are some photos of the event (videos in another post later):

Street Parade and Dancing

Waiting for the arrival of the Papal Nuncio

History of the church in Bontoc

Offering for the Grand Celebration Mass

Saturday, December 15, 2007

Birth Month Meme

I was tagged by Ganda to do this meme. She has been teasing me about my mooncake blog not moving down for the longest time, so this is a good insert until my mind wakes up from vacation mode =)

The rules for this meme are:
- Pick your birth month.
- Bold the 5-10 that best apply to you.
- Copy to your own journal, with all twelve months. (Here's where you can get the list of the qualities for each birth month).
- Tag 3 people from your friends list (people you know personally) and 3 blogger/online friends.

My birth month is FEBRUARY,and my qualities (kuno hehehe...) are:
Abstract thoughts (I like listening to good ideas and thoughts). Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever (naks!). Changing personality (sus, chameleon pala ako). Attractive. Sexy. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble (ehem, ehem, wen met a piman no mamingsan). Honest and loyal (nagkatugma kami ni Ganda nito). Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Daring and stubborn (an inherited trait from my grandma and my mother hehehe). Ambitious. Realizes dreams and hopes. Sharp (I'd like to think so hehehe). Loves entertainment and leisure (who doesn't?). Romantic on the inside not outside (daw!). Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions.

I tag my brother Andreas, Ading Sarah who needs to update her posts hehehehe..., and Jesse. Hmmm... My online friends have already been tagged so I guess I don't have to include them =D

I like Ganda's tweak to the meme, so I will put the birthmonth qualities of Ganda and these three friends and bold the qualities that I like best about them. Funny, Ganda, Sarah and Jesse have the same birthmonth. Hmmm... =)

GANDA
MARCH: Attractive personality. Sexy (noon daw pero sige lang, ituloy ang walking hihihihi). Affectionate. Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Loves to serve others (I just asked her a favor and she couldn't say no hehehe). Easily angered. Trustworthy (which is probably why she's one of my close friends). Appreciative and returns kindness. Observant and assesses others. Revengeful. Loves to dream and fantasize. Loves traveling. Loves attention. Hasty decisions in choosing partners (hmmm.. daw? ehehehe). Loves home decors (I was there when she decorated her Christmas tree and her house). Musically talented (katulad ko, hihihi). Loves special things. Moody.

ANDREAS
JULY: Fun to be with (hey, that's why we clicked). Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself (I would say, arrogant in some respects hehehehe). Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people’s feelings (definitely!). Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. Dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally (he makes me think too much also). Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving (the best part about having a big brother). Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy (he has concern for other people). Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Likes to be quiet. Homely person. Waits for friends (even when I'm shopping, he is indeed patient). Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Prone to having stomach and dieting problems (ahahahaha... Right!). Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover.

SARAH
MARCH: Attractive personality. Sexy (walang panama si Ganda dito ehehehe). Affectionate. Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Loves to serve others (I also asked a favor from her and she couldn't say no hehehe). Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Observant and assesses others. Revengeful. Loves to dream and fantasize. Loves traveling. Loves attention. Hasty decisions in choosing partners (nyahahaha, hasty ba?). Loves home decors. Musically talented. Loves special things. Moody.

JESSE
MARCH: Attractive personality. Sexy (isa pa to). Affectionate. Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Loves to serve others (kaya bagay nito na Information Officer e hehe). Easily angered. Trustworthy (the holder of my secrets hihihi). Appreciative and returns kindness. Observant and assesses others. Revengeful. Loves to dream and fantasize. Loves traveling. Loves attention. Hasty decisions in choosing partners. Loves home decors. Musically talented (birit baby to). Loves special things (yap, maarte to pagdating sa gamit). Moody.

Friday, October 12, 2007

Mooncake, Anyone?

Bloggers Wil and Igorot Blogger asked what a mooncake is. The occassion for mooncakes, the Moon Festival, is already over, but to satisfy curiosity, allow me to still blog about it.

According to this site, which also explains the origins/legends of the Moon Festival, "While baked goods are a common feature at most Chinese celebrations, mooncakes are inextricably linked with the Moon festival. One type of traditional mooncake is filled with lotus seed paste. Roughly the size of a human palm, these mooncakes are quite filling, meant to be cut diagonally in quarters and passed around. A word of caution: the salty yolk in the middle, representing the full moon, is an acquired taste.

More elaborate versions of mooncakes contain four egg yolks (representing the four phases of the moon). Besides lotus seed paste, other traditional fillings include red bean paste and black bean paste. Unfortunately for dieters, mooncakes are rather high in calories.While in the past mooncakes took up to four weeks to make, automation has speeded up the process considerably. Today, mooncakes may be filled with everything from dates, nuts, and fruit to Chinese sausages.

More exotic creations include green tea mooncakes, and ping pei or snowskin mooncakes, a Southeast Asian variation made with cooked glutinous rice flour. Haagen-Daz has even gotten into the act by introducing a line of ice cream mooncakes in Asian markets."

With that introduction, here are some different kinds, but I'm sure there are a lot more interesting ones.


The Traditional Mooncake
The Chinese characters probably tell you what the flavor is.

The Mini Mooncake
This one is pandan flavor, I guess.

The Proudly Indonesian 'Kue Bulan' (mooncake)
This one has chocolate filling.

The Oink Mooncake?
This is the most unusual mooncake I have seen so far.

So now you know what a mooncake is! =) You should check out the site above for the origins/legends of the Moon Festival. I heard the historical version from a member of my family group, but the romantic version adds another dimension to it.

Friday, October 05, 2007

My Quote for the Day



"One of the myths that you have to overcome to live a significant and purposeful life is the myth that you don't count, that you can't make a difference, that what you can do is so insignificant and the needs of the world so great, that what you can do doesn't matter. It matters tremendously to someone who is on the receiving end of your love."

Harold J. Sala


Thursday, September 27, 2007

Brother Moon

Last Tuesday night, I wanted to sleep early. For these past two months, it became a habit for me to sleep after 2 am and it was affecting my endurance during the day. So in consideration to a brother's order that I should go to bed early, I then went to bed at 1 am. However, sleep was elusive, and I just kept on tossing and turning. I guess I had gotten used to tiring myself out first before I can sleep, so my mind was still very active and thoughts were busy running across my head.

After more than an hour of restlessness in bed, I opened my eyes to see what the time was, and to my surprise, it was very bright outside, even to the point of illumining my room which was blocked by huge curtains. I wondered why, so I stood up and looked outside, and behold, I saw Brother Moon shining so radiantly. After a moment of entrancement, I quickly got my camera and took snapshots of it. This is the best photo I got =)

After that, I was able to go to sleep hehehehe... I must have eaten too much mooncake that day! Happy Mooncake Festival for those who are celebrating it.

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Images of Batam, Indonesia

Batam is one of the islands of Indonesia. It takes about an hour of ferry boat ride from Singapore. This is a rather new city that is developing at a furious pace. Twenty years ago or so, it was just marshland but due to its nearness to Singapore, it developed into an industrial center. That's all I know, folks. Hehehe...
Their houses are very colorful.
I was struck with the variety of shades that they use.
Talong-talo si Bayani Fernando na fuchsia lang ang alam na kulay,
pinangalandakan pa sa mga overpass nia. Sus!


What do you think of the Indonesian flag?
Sa tingin ko, medyo plain siya, di ba? Sabagay, walang kaartehan.
Di na kailangang kantahan ng 'Ang mamatay ng dahil sa yo'.

Sweet murtabak, with lots a cheese,
condensed milk and chocolate. Yummy!
Kasla hotcake ijay Bontoc sika. Namiss ko tuloy native coffee.

These sari skirts don't come cheap. Too bad!
Oray haanen, ta awan metlang kwartak =)
Food, glorious seafood...
Obvious ba, prawn lang ang gusto ko?
Ay apo ti tagabanbantay, awan ti taste na ti fishy-fish.

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Indonesian Kids at Play

Does this photo remind you of your childhood?
It did for me =)

Monday, September 10, 2007

Crossroads

I know I’m in a crossroad right now. I face two opposite roads of conflicting directions and each road will take me to a life different than the other. There could be other roads, I guess, but right now, I seem to have only two options; that is, should I continue with the road I have been traveling on or should I take a different route? This time, the latter seems to be tempting. I have thought of this before and once, I thought it happened but I got back on the same road though. That meant I had not taken a different route; I have just strayed from it.

The old road is somewhat irregular, sometimes smooth, sometimes rough like all normal roads are, I guess, but I have weathered it simply because I loved traveling on it. At first, it felt unfamiliar territory but as I traveled on, it seemed more and more like a secure direction, a comfortable destination. But I had doubts along the way as I saw other roads that seemed to beckon to me. However, I seem to have overcome all obstacles while traveling on this road. I learned to live with the good times and the tough times, so I thought I will be continuing on this road forever.

Until now, when I came upon this crossroad. The new road is a mystery; it seems to fit me judging from the size and makings of it, but I have no inkling of where it would lead me. Time and again I have come upon this road but have not seen the compelling need to switch roads. I know that like the old road I would need to adjust to it before I can really get the hang of traveling on it; that is, if I do decide to get off the old road though.

If I do decide to travel on this new road, would it disappoint me? Would it give me the security and comfort the old road has given me? Better yet, would it be a better travel than what I experienced with the old one? In short, would it be a better choice?

I do not know. I have my doubts; I have my fears. I am a person who likes security, and going off in another direction is a major risk. But, I also seem to be getting tired of the old road. Sure, I have weathered the good and the bad, but it has left me with scars and bruises. Because of the travel, some parts of my body grew callused and other parts, I have sensitive skin left exposed. This has wearied me from traveling on the same road, and come to think of it, from traveling itself.

Some say I should take the risk and go off on the new road since it seems to be fitted more for me. Others say, why go off the old road when I have already been on it for far too long that it seems to fit me well. It is a hard decision to make and it has left me stuck on the crossroad, unable to go farther.

(This is an old post from my Friendster blog. I was reminded of it because Ading Jean mentioned it in her comment for 'Bitter or Better'. I'm reposting it here to acknowledge that I did decide to get off the old road, but I'm in no hurry to get on the new road either. I'm resting from all that traveling hehehe...)

Saturday, August 25, 2007

Eight Random Facts About Me

Igorot Blogger (I often called him Sir B, which I think is nice, but he thinks it's too formal) has tagged me to list eight random facts about myself.

These are the rules for this tagging thing, which I'm supposed to post as well:
  • We have to post these rules before we give you the facts.

  • Players start with eight random facts/habits about themselves.

  • People who are tagged need to write on their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.

  • At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.

  • Don’t forget to leave them a comment on their blog telling them they’re tagged, and you read their blog.

Since I was up to the challenge, I then thought of eight things about me, myself and I that I could share without being too uncomfortable. These are what I came up with:

1. I started reading early and I was a certified bookworm in elementary, so much so that my mother would rip the books (usually pocketbooks) I was reading or hide them every time she catches me, because I forget to do the household chores or the things she asked me to do.

2. By profession, I am a journalist but I got involved in the work of Bible Translation. My friend, Jesse, who is also a journalist by profession but is now working in Dubai, says she is now a journalist on LOA. If she is on LOA, I guess I am retired =)

3. I am a chocoholic. I love chocolates! I just ate a little Snickers bar after dinner hehehe... I also have a sweet tooth. My friend, Ferri Cardia, would also tell you that I'm an ice cream addict. I wonder, can you have a sweet tooth and not be chocoholic?

4. I always say I am the eldest of four siblings, but actually, I had an eldest brother who died when we were young (God bless his soul). I am the next in rank, so I got the title of eldest by default.

5. When I laugh, tears would fall from my eyes. I think it may be hereditary because my mom and my aunts are also like that.

6. I like jamming or videoke sessions; they are one of my stress-busters. I miss my dorm days where my roomies and I can just gather in our room and sing the day away. Incidentally, some older classmates in the graduate school I attended gave me the title 'karaoke queen' because they couldn't believe that I know most of the old songs (courtesy of my father hehehe...).

7. I only wore earrings after I graduated from college; I haven't bothered before that. Ina, my grandmother from my mother's side, was the one who pierced my ears hehehe...

8. I get scared easily so I don't like horror movies; they stay with me for a long time. If I do watch, I'd have to have a companion. But I like cartoons =)

There, folks, that's me! Hehehe... Hmmm... the next thing I'm supposed to do is to tag eight others. Igorot Blogger has not tagged Ferri Cardia so Sis, you are tagged; Manong Bob; Ading Sarah; Jesse (she can do it on her Friendster blog since Multiply is blocked in Dubai); Okay and his wife, Luz (that is, if they still have time to do this since Luz just gave birth to their first child, Fanuz); my twin friends, Robyn and Joanne.

Now, friendz, you have to do this or else I will put pressure on you, so much so that it would create another typhoon Milenyo. So for love of country (sparing the Philippines from another disaster), DOH it. (I think this is better than the purgatory stuff of Igorot Blogger hehehe... Jokis!) But the most important thing is, enjoy!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Bitter or Better?

In my visit to a bookstore, I was browsing through their collection when I came upon the section on counseling and advice. I chanced upon this book, (unfortunately, I forgot the title), that supposedly talks about coming to terms with heartaches or broken hearts, and the process of healing and moving on. Since I am going through this difficult situation at this point in time, my curiosity was piqued.

After reading the summary at the back, I turned the page to the first chapter and the title got me. It posed a very striking question: bitter or better? It hit me right in the head. You see, when it comes to dealing with my own pain, I get lost. But, I have always held that one should experience the hurt, allow oneself to mope, feel depressed, get angry and what have you, (in fact, you cannot help it!), not only because that is the reality of broken hearts but also because one has to get it out of his/her system. And I believed that one has to go through this before the process of healing takes over. Of course, where and when you show this kind of behavior is different for each person. Some people are transparent while others tend to do their grieving in private.

In one of the scenes of the movie Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch asks his sick and dying professor Morrie, if he ever gets deppressed, angry or fearful because of his condition, and Morrie says that of course, it is but natural. However, he adds that he does not dwell long in that negative moment, but he acknowledges the feeling and basks in it for a moment; afterwards, he distances himself from it and moves on. Even in his condition, he recognizes that life still has much to offer.

It was such an awesome lesson for me, because to be able to do that, you have to have reached a certain maturity and discipline in order that your emotions do not control or limit your positive outlook in life; that despite the odds, there is still a measure of hope. However, I tried practicing Morrie's way, but a lot of times, it did not work, much as I'd like to have that kind of emotional discipline and maturity. It takes me a longer time to get over an emotion and a lot of times, I get stuck. In a sense, I think that there is also a certain masochistic bent to it -- the monster in me wanting to squeeze every sorry stuff out of the situation I am in. It is so easy for someone who is broken-hearted to be bitter, to continually rage against one's lot or to indulge in the negative emotions for a long time, and this becomes even more complicated because this can be addictive.

But somehow, this book, which I just browsed, was able to wake me up from some of my tendencies. It was as if someone physically knocked me out of my reverie, or like I was seeing the movie Tuesdays with Morrie again, and the same lesson is being repeated. It was warning me not to inflict more wounds on myself and to accept the fact that somethings are not meant to be. No use crying over spilled milk, as the saying goes (which is better said than done though). That is why, this idea of being better than bitter attracted me. To be better requires a lot of energy and effort, which is difficult since the negative emotions can zap the strength out of anybody. Ultimately then, to be better is a decision that one has to purposely embrace everyday.

Nowadays, the first chapter's title keeps repeating itself in my head like a mantra whenever I feel the urge to mope, be deppressed and give up. Bitter or better? Bitter or better? BITTER OR BETTER? I hope in time, I can confidently answer the question with 'Who wants to be bitter? BETTER of course'.

(Note: I just had to unload some serious stuff as a sort of catharsis or else my head would explode. Hehehe...)




Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Toilet Etiquette


How's this for contextualizing 'love your neighbor' the Singapore Christian way? The hostel for singles where i live has a lot of friendly reminders for the hostelites using the common facilities like the lounge and the bathrooms/toilets. This reminder is my favorite because I always read it when I go to the toilet hehehe... Other etiquette reminders are subtle; the post in the bathroom says "Did you leave your hair behind?", while in the rooms, the post starts with "Thank you for taking good care of the facilities..." Friendly, but with a bite! =)



Thursday, August 02, 2007

Pedicure with a Twist

My farmer feet takes a long needed
scrub and pedicure for a very extravagant price...
Who would have thought that a pedicure could cause me an arm and a leg, and maybe my head as well? I know everything here in Singapore is expensive, but I did not know how expensive it could be to get your nails done. I was of the mistaken notion that I could find a cheap shop where this kind of service would not be as expensive. In the Philippines, I can get a pedicure for P50 in the cities and cheaper rates back home. I should have dropped my Mass Comm degree, which is of no use in my line of work now, and traded it for a PMA course (Pukis, Manicure, Agkulot) when I had the chance, had I known that I could get this hefty amount by doing those here.

I could have tolerated seeing my nails' color evolve through time – from blatant red to dirty white, but the ingrown in my left toenail kept bugging me. It began to hurt because I now walk regularly and it gets pressed. As soon as I take off my shoes and socks, I could feel the nails cutting through the flesh.

I guess I should blame it all on the doctor who removed my whole left toenail years ago after I had a nail infection, and closed the corners where the sides of the nail ought to be. He told me that the toenail will not grow back, but he was grossly wrong! It did grow back and it started to cut through the flesh until the toe got infected again. When I got tired of drinking antibiotics, I went to have the toenail cut by a pedicurist, who when hearing about my minor operation promptly declared that the doctor was tabbed (stupid) for telling me that the nail won't grow back, because they do grow back eventually even when the whole nail is removed. Since that time, I had to have my pedicure regularly or else the same cycle of infection would happen.

A Singaporean friend accompanied me to the shopping district where this kind of service are supposedly cheaper but when we looked around, the rates were even more expensive than those I saw in another shopping center. Since I did not want to inconvenience my friend by asking her to accompany me to another shopping center next week and I also did not want to wait another week, I took a deep breath and unwillingly went into one of those shops.

They have two different kinds of services: the classic pedicure, which involves removing the cuticles, shaping and painting the nails, and the express one, which was definitely cheaper, but just involves shaping and painting the nails. I did not have any choice because I need to have my cuticles removed so I had to go for the more expensive one. (My mother would really strangle me if she learns the amount that I paid for this huhuhuhu...).

The service was not what I expected. It was rather nice and elaborate but I did not have the mindset to enjoy it as I was thinking all the while of the amount I would be paying, and regretting my decision at some point. But the process goes like this: first, they soak your feet in warm water to soften the nails. After that, they clean the nails and its surroundings and they take a long time to do that. In the Philippines, the pedicurist will clip the sides of all the nails so I was waiting for that part but it never came. Instead, the pedicurist asked me what toenail was hurting and I pointed to my left toenail and she started to scrape at the sides of the nails. This is interesting because in the Philippines (always my point of reference of course), they cut the ingrown using a nipper, but here, they use a tool that scrapes at the sides of the nails to lessen it. Then she asked me if it still hurt and when I said no, she stopped. But I asked her to scrape some more of it. She asked me if my right toenail hurt and when I said no, she did not bother scraping it. She let my feet soak some more in the warm water.

So I thought the whole thing was over. But, she took my feet out again and began giving me a foot scrub. This was a whole new experience for me as the only foot scrub I experienced was, when as a child, we would rub our feet on the stones when we go for baths in the Chico river hehehe... When she was finished, she rubbed lotion from my ankles down to my toes then she massaged them. If only she did a whole body massage, that would have made my day, and would have made me forget the amount. She dried my feet then applied the color I chose. This was a tedious process because she applied the coating thrice and very slowly. After this, she asked me to go and put my feet under what I call a 'feet blower' (I don't know what they call the machine), which blows cold air into my feet to dry the nails. It took about 10 minutes so I had time to chat with the friendly workers there.

Reluctantly, I paid the amount and went home, still dazed, hoping that my nails would not bug me for more than a month or that I could find a cheaper foot studio. Maybe, I should go looking for those other Filipino hang-outs here, aside from the famous Lucky Plaza in Orchard Road because it is too far from where I stay. I am sure that there would be a Filipina around who can do pedicure at a cheaper rate.

Thursday, July 19, 2007

Musings of a Stranger in a Foreign Land

I do not know what is worse when staying in a foreign place: being away from loved ones or being with strangers. Homesickness is something that I think I can never tear myself away from. Maybe it is the realization that being away from people you love makes you think about how their life goes on without you in it. It is very much disquieting to acknowledge that in the years ahead, when they look back at their lives, you will not be a part of their so-called moments, and that you have missed it altogether.

It is not that I have not been away from loved ones for a long time; in fact I left the house at 14 to study in another place. But even then, I did not consider that place as foreign since it was still within the boundary of familiar territories. I think that this awareness of being in a foreign place is more than sleeping in another bed or tasting a different kind of food or using another language. It seems to involve more than that because it includes a psychological awareness that you are on unfamiliar territory. Another part of it is an awareness that you are with people, who are different from you not just in form but also in worldview.

Nevertheless, I have learned two things because of this experience. The first is that being with strangers makes you realize how important stability and security is. Being unsettled makes one feel a little bit out of character, sort of like a nail that has not been hammered rightly in place. But I guess part of the unsettledness that I am feeling is my lack of routine or a knowledge of what is ahead of me. Somehow, for me, I seem to be more settled when I have a day to day course to follow, sort of like a schedule that I can keep track of in my head. Of course, I do not have one now as I still need to know how my day to day activities would unfold. Everything seems to be a little bit hazy.

But more importantly, being with strangers makes you acknowledge the importance of familiarity, and I mean here the sense of being acquainted, and being intimate in some respects, to people, places and events, which I do not enjoy now. It makes you miss the people you are familiar with because you know that they understand you and that you do not have to explain your words or actions, and the places you are acquainted with because you can wander freely and with great confidence.

In contrast, being with people you do not know and being in a foreign place instantly shows you how limited your communication skills are, and in a sense, your way of coping. It is, I guess, a sort of rude awakening when you go to a store and find out that the cashier cannot understand you and you cannot understand her either. Or that your companions give you blank stares when you say the term 'CR', instead of 'toilet'. Or that you do not need to shout at the driver to stop but instead just press a button to signal him. These instances not only cause you stress but moments of embarrassment as well.

In short, a matter of consequence is that I have to unlearn the familiar and replace it with something that is maybe unfamiliar to me but is familiar to this place; one that I need to master or else nobody would understand me. Either that or I can be a stranger in this foreign place forever.

Addendum: What brought about these ramblings, you might ask? It's just that I commented at lunch once that it is more delicious to eat with your bare hands rather than use the fork and spoon, and a pandemonium broke out! LOL... I am exaggerating. What happened was when I said that, everyone at my table stared at me as if I have grown horns, as the expression goes. I guess the idea of using their bare hands when eating is foreign to them as it is familiar to me.

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

The Folded Napkin: A Trucker's Story

This is long, but worth the read.
(If this doesn't light your fire, your wood is wet!!!)

I tried not to be biased, but I had my doubts about hiring Stevie. His placement counselor assured me that he would be a good, reliable busboy. But I had never had a mentally handicapped employee and wasn't sure I wanted one.

I wasn't sure how my customers would react to Stevie. He was short, a little dumpy with the smooth facial features and thick-tongued speech of Downs Syndrome. I wasn't worried about most of my trucker customers because truckers don't generally care who buses tables as long as the meatloaf platter is good and the pies are homemade. The four-wheeler drivers were the ones who concerned me; the mouthy college kids traveling to school; the yuppie snobs who secretly polish their silverware with their napkins for fear of catching some dreaded "truck-stop germ"; the pairs of white-shirted business men on expense accounts who think every truck stop waitress wants to be with. I knew those people would be uncomfortable around Stevie so I closely watched him for the first few weeks.

I shouldn't have worried. After the first week, Stevie had my staff wrapped around his stubby little finger, and within a month my truck regulars had adopted him as their official truck-stop mascot.

After that, I really didn't care what the rest of the customers thought of him. He was like a 21-year-old in blue jeans and Nikes, eager to laugh and eager to please, but fierce in his attention to his duties. Every salt and pepper shaker was exactly in its place, not a bread crumb or coffee spill was visible when Stevie got done with the table. Our only problem was persuading him to wait to clean a table until after the customers were finished. He would hover in the background, shifting his weight from one foot to the other, scanning the dining room until a table was empty. Then he would scurry to the empty table and carefully bus dishes and glasses onto his cart and meticulously wipe the table up with a practiced flourish of his rag. If he thought a customer was watching, his brow would pucker with added concentration. He took pride in doing his job exactly right, and you had to love how hard he tried to please each and every person he met.

Over time, we learned that he lived with his mother, a widow who was disabled after repeated surgeries for cancer. They lived on their Social Security benefits in public housing two miles from the truck stop. Their social worker, who stopped to check on him every so often, admitted they had fallen between the cracks. Money was tight, and what I paid him was probably the difference between them being able to live together and Stevie being sent to a group home.

That's why the restaurant was a gloomy place that morning last August, the first in three years that Stevie missed work. He was at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester getting a new valve or something put in his heart. His social worker said that people with Downs Syndrome often have heart problems at an early age so this wasn't unexpected, and there was a good chance he would come through the surgery in good shape and be back at work in a few months.

A ripple of excitement ran through the staff later that morning when word came that he was out of surgery, in recovery, and doing fine. Frannie, the head waitress, let out a war hoop and did a little dance in the aisle when she heard the good news. Belle Ringer, one of our regular trucker customers, stared at the sight of this 50-year-old grandmother of four doing a victory shimmy beside his table.

Frannie blushed, smoothed her apron and shot Belle Ringer a withering look. He grinned. "OK, Frannie, what was that all about?" he asked. "We just got word that Stevie is out of surgery and going to be okay." "I was wondering where he was. I had a new joke to tell him. What was the surgery about?"

Frannie quickly told Belle Ringer and the other two drivers sitting at his booth about Stevie's surgery, then sighed: "Yeah, I'm glad he is going to be OK," she said. "But I don't know how he and his Mom are going to handle all the bills. From what I hear, they're barely getting by as it is."

Belle Ringer nodded thoughtfully, and Frannie hurried off to wait on the rest of her tables. Since I hadn't had time to round up a busboy to replace Stevie and really didn't want to replace him, the girls were busing their own tables that day until we decided what to do.

After the morning rush, Frannie walked into my office. She had a couple of paper napkins in her hand and a funny look on her face. "What's up?" I asked. "I didn't get that table where Belle Ringer and his friends were sitting cleared off after they left, and Pony Pete and Tony Tipper were sitting there when I got back to clean it off," she said. "This was folded and tucked under a coffee cup."

She handed the napkin to me, and three $20 bills fell onto my desk when I opened it. On the outside, in big, bold letters, was printed "Something For Stevie". "Pony Pete asked me what that was all about," she said, "so I told him about Stevie and his Mom and everything, and Pete looked at Tony and Tony looked at Pete, and they ended up giving me this." She handed me another paper napkin that had "Something For Stevie" scrawled on its outside. Two $50 bills were tucked within its folds. Frannie looked at me with wet, shiny eyes, shook her head, and said simply: "Truckers."

That was three months ago. Today is Thanksgiving, the first day Stevie is supposed to be back to work. His placement worker said he's been counting the days until the doctor said he could work, and it didn't matter at all that it was a holiday. He called 10 times in the past week, making sure we knew he was coming, fearful that we had forgotten him or that his job was in jeopardy. I arranged to have his mother bring him to work. I then met them in the parking lot and invited them both to celebrate his day back.

Stevie was thinner and paler, but couldn't stop grinning as he pushed through the doors and headed for the back room where his apron and busing cart were waiting. "Hold up there, Stevie, not so fast," I said. I took him and his mother by their arms. "Work can wait for a minute. To celebrate you coming back, breakfast for you and your mother is on me!"

I led them toward a large corner booth at the rear of the room. I could feel and hear the rest of the staff following behind as we marched through the dining room. Glancing over my shoulder, I saw booth after booth of grinning truckers empty and join the procession. We stopped in front of the big table. Its surface was covered with coffee cups, saucers and dinner plates, all sitting slightly crooked on dozens of folded paper napkins.

"First thing you have to do, Stevie, is clean up this mess," I said. I tried to sound stern. Stevie looked at me, and then at his mother, then pulled out one of the napkins. It had "Something for Stevie" printed on the outside. As he picked it up, two $10 bills fell onto the table. Stevie stared at the money, then at all the napkins peeking from beneath the tableware, each with his name printed or scrawled on it. I turned to his mother. There's more than $10,000 in cash and checks on that table, all from truckers and trucking companies that heard about your problems. "Happy Thanksgiving!"

Well, it got real noisy about that time, with everybody hollering and shouting, and there were a few tears, as well. But you know what's funny? While everybody else was busy shaking hands and hugging each other, Stevie, with a big, big smile on his face, was busy clearing all the cups and dishes from the table.

Best worker I ever hired.

Plant a seed and watch it grow.

If you shed a tear, hug yourself, because you are a compassionate person.

Thursday, March 08, 2007

Be Grateful by Peter Gerhard

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but oftentimes we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.

The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trails to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to bring you joy.

Always put yourself in another's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best ofeverything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't get on well in life until you let go of past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Monday, January 22, 2007

Celebration Time!

Whew! We have just finished celebrating the end of Phase 4: Field Methods and Computer Data Management, but I'm still reeling from the shock of it. Imagine, I was able to finish my paper of 51 pages. Isn't that grand? I slept at past 3am this morning, and my housemates slept later than me. We all need sleep but most of us are still in the computer room. I guess it is hard to break old habits. =)
Yesterday, I was in the computer room the whole day staring at my laptop. I was not feeling tired yet, but when we went home at 6pm, I told myself I'd just rest for a bit then wake up to finish my paper. Voila! I woke up to find out its past 8pm already. I had to force myself to wake up by standing, because my body was still in the sleep, sleep mode.
That's when I realized how tired I was. My body was reacting to the weeks of hell I put it through. It's good we had a Christmas break or else the Applied Linguistics class would all have a breakdown at one point or the other in this 8 weeks of analyzing languages.
But that more than two hours of rest at the end of the day really gave me the strength to finish my paper last night and pass it on time this morning. Back it up with native coffee and you won't feel the need to sleep, har har har. We told our professor that our post-Field Methods reaction is, "Haaaaaaaaay!" He just laughed. I guess when he finishes with our final papers, he can also say the same thing.
We had an amusing situation this morning at 3am. I was done with my paper and was supposed to print it. (Thanks to Fukuda san, we had a new ink cartridge, just in time for the final paper.) But the printer kept saying that the ink levels are low, that the black cartridge has been used before, and that I should press the RESUME button if I still want to print. I kept pressing the OK button but it still popped up so I had to cancel printing. We tried the other printer, still the same warning. We tried the other printer's cartridge, connected the printer to Robyn's computer; still the same warning. We were getting really frustrated because if we can't print, then we can't pass our paper, right? We thought it might be the color cartridge, so Manong Dalmas went home and got their printer (we all have the same kind of printer) and their cartridge, but still the same thing.
Then I asked Robyn, "What is this RESUME button that this printer keeps on asking us to push?" She said she also doesn't know, but Doralyn heard my question and answered that it was the lower button in the printer. Guess what? That did the trick! Well, what can I say? It always helps to read the printer's manual nyahahahaha... After going nuts about it, we can't help but laugh at the irony.
You know what, I forgot to put an acknowledgement in my paper, so allow me to write it here:
--Thank you to our profesors, Sirs Steve and Allan and Ma'am Joker, for their expertise, great teamwork and help. If our teachers were not that approachable and understanding, I wouldn't be here writing all these.
--Thank you to my parents and siblings for their love and support in my endeavors, and for praying for me. Also to my mentor, Uncle Keith and his wife Aunt Kathie, for pushing and encouraging me still.
--Thank you to my housemates: Jean, Robyn, Meriam, Rynj, Doralyn, Esther and not to forget our 3/4 housemate Manong Dalmas, for sharing the ups and downs of this course with me. The sleepless nights weren't that bad because you were there struggling and laughing along with me. Special mention to Meriam, who is my language learning partner: thank you for being a considerate companion in all our sessions.
--Thank you to my classmates, the Applied Linguistics Program class, who have become a family.
--Thank you to our Language Resource Person (LRP), Pathawng, for sharing us one of his gifts, his language (Chin, Falam), and for being so accomodating with the extra time we asked for. Also, to the other LRPs, Thara and John, for contributing to a clearer analysis of their language.
--Thank you to my friends: Marj, who is always online and available to unload all of life's worries and events. Shock absorber, in short! Jesse, whom I can always count on to meet with me when I want to go out, and not think about linguistics for a change. My childhood pals: Mona, Nancy, Dalome, Wayen, Girly, Jane, Claudette, Kristelle, Christine, Maurice, and a whole lot more of my elementary batchmates, whom I can relish being with when I go home, and who keep in touch with me. My high school barkada: Nympha, Gay, Luz, Joanna, Maisie, Mia, and other special high school friends, who are still a part of me. We see each other rarely but when we do, it still feels like old times.
--Thank you to everyone, whom I have not mentioned in this impromptu acknowledgement, but have helped, counseled, encouraged me at one time or the other. You know who you are.
--And last but not the least, to God, who is responsible for all these good things I have acknowledged. My gratitude could never measure up to his immeasurable love and mercy.

Goodbye Field Methods and Computer Data Management!
Hello Sociolinguistics and Literacy! :-)

Tuesday, January 09, 2007

Crossroad

I know I’m in a crossroad right now. I face two opposite roads of conflicting directions and each road will take me to a life different than the other. There could be other roads, I guess, but right now, I seem to have only two options; that is, should I continue with the road I have traveled before or should I take a different route? This time, the latter seems to be tempting. I have thought of this before and once, I thought it happened but I got back on the same road though. That meant I had not taken a different route; I have just strayed from it.

The old road is somewhat irregular, sometimes smooth, sometimes rough like all normal roads are, I guess, but I have weathered it simply because I loved traveling on it. At first, it felt unfamiliar territory but as I traveled on, it seemed more and more like a secure direction, a comfortable destination. But I had doubts along the way as I saw other roads that seemed to beckon to me. However, I seem to have overcome all obstacles while traveling on this road. I learned to live with the good times and the tough times, so I thought I will be continuing on this road forever.

Until now, when I came upon this crossroad. The new road is a mystery; it seems to fit me judging from the size and makings of it, but I have no inkling of where it would lead me. Time and again I have come upon this road but have not seen the compelling need to switch roads. I know that like the old road I would need to adjust to it before I can really get the hang of traveling on it; that is, if I do decide to get off the old road though.

If I do decide to travel on this new road, would it disappoint me? Would it give me the security and comfort the old road has given me? Better yet, would it be a better travel than what I experienced with the old one? In short, would it be a better choice?

I do not know. I have my doubts; I have my fears. I am a person who likes security, and going off in another direction is a major risk. But, I also seem to be getting tired of the old road. Sure, I have weathered the good and the bad, but it has left me with scars and bruises. Because of the travel, some parts of my body grew callused and other parts, I have sensitive skin left exposed. This has wearied me from traveling on the same road, and come to think of it, from traveling itself.

Some say I should take the risk and go off on the new road since it seems to be fitted more for me. Others say, why go off the old road when I have already been on it for far too long that it seems to fit me well. It is a hard decision to make and it has left me stuck on the crossroad, unable to go farther.

Sunday, January 07, 2007

Celine Dion & Andrea Bocelli - The Prayer